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Do not speak to yourself in a manner that you would not speak to family and friends.
The next time you catch yourself saying negative things to yourself, imagine yourself sitting at lunch with your friend and saying the exact same thing to your friend that you just said to yourself. Imagine you’re stressed out about the mess building up around the house and you feel totally defeated. You might say something to yourself like, “Ugh, why bother. This place is a disaster I’ll never catch up. I’m horrible at organizing.” Now, would you say this to your friend? “Why bother? Your place is a disaster! You’ll never catch up. You’re horrible at organizing.”
Think about that for a moment. Would you actually say this to your overwhelmed friend? I bet you wouldn’t. It sounds ridiculous, doesn’t it? Well, if the thought of saying it to your friend is ridiculous, then why is it okay to say to yourself? It’s not! New rule…if it’s not suitable to say to a friend then it’s not suitable to say to yourself. Be your own friend.
