And finding your way back. There are lots of reasons why couples might feel disconnected. Sometimes it springs from resentments and disappointments stored up over the course of a relationship. There...

Using music as therapy.  “Music has charms to soothe the savage breast, to soften rocks, or bend a knotted oak.” So offered William Congreve in the 17th Century, and he was right, more or less. Not...

That might not be in your partner’s, or your own, self-interests. As the world isn’t perfect, we rarely find a partner who satisfies all of our criteria. They may have certain idiosyncrasies or...

In retirement, couples have to cope with a more intrusive co-existence. How well you handle it can depend on your perspective.

Bringing your stuff with you. It should be easy — stop working and go play. But it’s not. We live in a work-driven culture, and so work is in our DNA and retirement is antithetical to who we are...

Improving the odds of success. By Dr. Lou Primavera There’s always something we’d like to fix about ourselves — lose weight, quit smoking, learn a language, and so on. The trouble...

Your new role requires a new way to define yourself. In previous articles, I’ve alluded to the issue of the roles we adopt at different life stages. How we define ourselves is determined by...

Is there a better way to treat depression and anxiety? Since the 1980’s, anti-depressants have been the go-to solution for people suffering from depression and anxiety. Indeed, they are now...

A subtle but vital way of supporting your partner There are lots of ways partners in an intimate relationship can support each other. While all have their value, emotional support is by far the most...

What can be done about it. Sleeping is a problem for almost everyone I know — mind you, they’re all old people, meaning over 60 years of age. Whenever one of us gets a good night’s...