Health & Well-Being

Male Care-Givers

Why Don’t We Hear Much About Them?

By Samantha Stein

When we talk about family caregivers and read about them online, we often picture women—daughters or wives—caring for their loved ones. In fact, the majority of research studies and surveys online are about female family caregivers and the struggles that they face. This brings one question to mind: What about the male care-givers?

For decades, care-giving has been perceived as woman’s responsibility. When one family member falls ill, the duty of providing care often goes to wife, daughter, or mother because of their love for family or because it was expected of them. This may be attributed to traditional roles: the man of the household provides while the woman nurtures. However, times are changing, and the lines between gender roles are quickly dissolving. Often out of necessity, more men are rolling up their sleeves to fill in the role of family care-givers.

Identifying with the Role of Caregiver

Care-givers often end up making drastic changes to their lifestyles in order to accommodate the demands of care-giving. Some choose to leave their careers and put having families of their own to the back burner. Others are put under great emotional and mental stress as they watch their loved ones battle ailments and health conditions. They dedicate not just their time but their resources and well-being to ensuring that their loved ones receive the care and support that they need. Care-giving takes so much from a person, and they need all the support that they can get.

However, the danger in this situation is that male caregivers often do not see themselves as such. They view the responsibilities that come with care-giving as simply part of being a family and nothing else. This then leads to fewer chances of identifying their concerns and effectively addressing them.

Male Caregivers in Numbers

Among the ranks of older generations, the family caregivers are often women in their late 40’s, caring for a mother or mother-in-law in her 60’s. Typically, they are not living in the same house as their care recipient. And they are often married and employed.

The younger generations have a different take on care-giving. Although the care-giver population may be predominantly female in the past years, males from the incoming groups are quickly catching up. Today, studies show that up to 45% of care-givers are men. According to “The Millennial Care-giver”, a study by the AARP Public Policy Institute and the National Alliance for Care-giving, care-givers from the 18-34 age range are equally likely to be male or female.

A Different Approach to Care-giving

Male care-givers approach care-giving differently than their female counterparts. In a study done by researchers at Bowling Green State University, researchers cited that men appear to deal with care-giver stress better through a ‘block and tackle’ approach. What they do is address one issue before moving on to the next whereas women care-givers tend to internalize their performance with worry and anxiety. There are also more assertive when it comes to demanding answers about their loved one’s health issues.

However, unlike their counterparts, male care-givers are perceived to be less inclined to ask for help. The New York City chapter of the Alzheimer’s Association cited in a recent Forbes article that only 20% of the callers to their help lines are men. They struggle with the intricacies of the health care system and find it difficult to address problems with no clear-cut solutions.

What Needs to Be Done?

Male care-givers may be growing in numbers, but the research and awareness surrounding it appear to be struggling to keep up. Not much data is available about the issue that male care-givers face, and this makes addressing their challenges all the more difficult. In order to address their problems effectively, organizations and various groups must work hand in hand to bring them to the forefront.

​Samantha Stein is an online content manager for Association for Long Term Care Planning. Her works focus on long-term care information that covers long-term care insurance, financial planning, elder care, and retirement. In line with the organization’s goal, Samantha creates content that helps raise awareness on the importance of having a comprehensive long-term care plan not just for the good of the individual but for the safety of the entire family.

Leslie Eckford is an RN and LCSW with a specialty in elder care. Her book with co-author, Amanda Lambert, “Aging with Care: Your Guide to Hiring and Managing Caregivers at Home”, will be published November 2017 by Rowman and Littlefield.

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