Fear Masquerading as Anger
Many couples genuinely want to be emotionally close to each other and share a passionate lovemaking partnership, but as with Harold, they reach a certain point and their fears take over. One may start complaining about the other’s spending, for example, or one may actually spend too much knowing full well that his or her partner will be put off. The issue splits them apart for a time and then they become close again, until they reach a point of closeness that one or the other is uncomfortable with and the pattern of sabotage repeats itself.
Joel D. Block, Ph.D., is an award-winning psychologist (excellence in couple therapy) practicing couple and sex therapy on Long Island, New York. Board Certified in Couple therapy by the American Board of Professional Psychology, Dr. Block is a senior psychologist on the staff of the North Shore-Long Island Jewish Medical Center and an Assistant Clinical Professor (Psychology/Psychiatry) at the Hofstra North Shore-LIJ Medical School.
Dr. Block is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association and for twenty years he was the training supervisor of the Sexuality Center at Long Island-Jewish Medical Center. Dr. Block is the author of over 20 books on Love and Sex, his specialty.
He can be reached @ DrBlock.com