A third is narcissism…
Narcissists focus on their own needs and interests, but there’s more to narcissism than that. They have a few positive qualities (e.g., high self-esteem), but these can’t make up for their negative traits.
Narcissists typically lack empathy, have difficulty making emotional connections, and tend to exploit the people around them. They like their partners to be subservient, are not inclined to compromise, and act aggressively when criticized, believe their personal interests are threatened, or feel rejected. A disagreement with a narcissist often ends with a “my way or the highway” attitude, so you’re likely to feel they’re not interested in satisfying your needs. And if we show our resentment, they might interpret it as a signal that they’re not loved, or at least not loved as they want to be, so the relationship becomes less important to them.
