6. They’re personally committed. Commitment, an unwavering allegiance to a relationship and a partner, is a cornerstone of marriage. Personally committed partners see their relationship as the most important thing in their lives, and stay married because they want to, not out of necessity or a sense of responsibility. The emotional aspect of personal commitment enhances our marriage because it directs how we feel about our partner, and how we feel about them regulates how we treat them. Personally committed partners think of themselves not as individuals but as a team, sharing aspirations, thoughts and interests, all of which strengthen their desire to stay together.
7. They are emotionally supportive. In a successful marriage our partner is the go-to person. When we’re supportive, we take on ownership of our partner’s problem, and that makes us feel more connected to each other. When we feel supported, we feel more in control of our problems and we’re better equipped to handle them. Knowing we can rely on our partner for comfort, security, and advice when we’re caught up in difficult situations makes us feel like our partner is facing these issues with us, and that enhances the value of the relationship.
