8. They are trustworthy. Trust, another keystone of any relationship, lets us feel secure because we believe our partner has our back and is loyal through thick and thin. It also allows us to display our thoughts and feelings openly and honestly, because we don’t worry that our partner will judge, ridicule or reject us. The sense of security and predictability that comes with trust makes us feel good about our partner and believe our relationship has long term potential. These positive thoughts help to keep our emotions on an even keel. When emotions are under control, they don’t get the better of us. So, we’re able to discuss problems openly and with little or no hostility, and have an easier time coming to solutions.
9. They have a secure attachment style. Attachment style — how we connect with other people — develops from past relationships and sets the rules for our future ones. Securely attached individuals have no trouble making intimate and close bonds to others. In marriage, they treat their partners well because they don’t regard their relationship as threatening, and their partners tend to treat them better in return.
We’ve probably missed a few, but this is a good start. So, when you’re out there looking for a prospective partner, follow your heart, but also your head. Before you make the leap, find out whether your partner has at least some of these traits – you’ll be happy you did as the years go by.
